One of the hardest parts about seeing a guy you really like is when you’re two weeks into dating, and you still don’t know whether he’s really interested.
You second guess yourself a thousand times over. You make a million excuses for him; maybe he’s too shy to make a move… or too busy to text back. You hold on to every bit of advice given to you from your girlfriends, who tell you he likes you and that you need to give it time.
It can be so frustrating! Are guys really too dense to pick up on the strongest signs that you want it to get somewhere?
There are always situations where overthinking your relationship with someone isn’t worth the trouble. Sometimes, when things just aren’t working out, the best option is to move on. Trust us, girls, the last thing you want is to do is invest a lot into a person only to look back and realize you were totally wasting your time.
So, to spare you the torturous game of ‘is he or isn’t he’, we have all the answers you need. Here are 6 ways to tell if he’s really busy or just too busy for you.
1. He talks about other women
Girl, if he brings up other women in his life, this is a push-away mechanism. A guy who is comfortable enough to talk to you about other women, including his past flames, is probably not as interested in you as he is in those other women. Don’t be a second option!
2. He never asks to spend time with you
This is probably one of the biggest signs of all. If a guy is into you, it’s because he loves being around you.
If he’s making excuses to not see you or if he always says he’s busy, that’s a strong sign he’s not into you.
Sure, he might might have some crazy important stuff going on in his life. But remember, there is a fine line between someone who wants to see you in his free time, and frees time to see you. A man who really wants you WILL make an effort to be with you.
3. The relationship is more physical and less emotional
If he calls you at midnight and only hints for a physical relationship, he’s bad news. That means he just wants to get to know your body, and not YOU. If you don’t hear from him for days and then, ting, his name pops up on your phone in the middle of the night asking to come over… it’s just a booty call and NOT him thinking about you. Dump him!
4. He avoids introducing you to his friends
You’re going to meet his friends if he likes you. That’s just how men roll; they always want their guy friends’ opinion. If he avoids introducing you to them, or vice versa, it’s a sign that your relationship is not moving in the right direction and he just isn’t serious about you.
If you can relate to this, we just have one word for you… RUN!
5. There’s no meaningful communication
Any guy who likes you will make an effort to build the relationship, and communication is a major part of that. A little distance at the start of a relationship is common, but a lackluster effort to try to get to know you is a major sign that he’s not that into you. If he doesn’t know what to talk about on a date and seems preoccupied with trivial things about himself, you just aren’t getting his attention.
6. His actions contradict his words
Getting mixed signals from guy means it’s a red flag. Girl, remember, talking the talk isn’t walking the walk. If he says he loves you and that he wants to be with you, but doesn’t take you out or return your messages, he’s just playing. Always trust your gut! If you sense that ‘nothing he says or does makes sense’, it is probably because it really doesn’t. Talk is cheap; when a man is really interested in you, he will prove himself.
Ladies, you have to listen to your heart. If you feel you don’t have a future with a guy because he doesn’t really like you for YOU, then you should find a guy who does. You are beautiful and you deserve a guy who treats you like a princess!